Therapy homework

Describe my view of my father

As an individual

• Kind, Giving, Good intentions
• Patient
• Quiet, Sulky, Depressed, Stands behind others

As a father

• Not present, Little tangible love
• Goes with the momentum, Not imposing, Avoids conflict
• Willing to give advice or assist with tasks when asked
• Consistent, Loyal

Within society

• Socialist
• Traditionalist, Loyal, Obedient, Follows rules

Environmentally

• Mindful, Good intention
• Opinionated (but only when asked)

What influences he has had on me

Positive

• Shown me patience, family loyalty and being of service has value
• Provided a consistent normality to fall back on, the simplicity provided me with space to find inspiration more organically
• Through my dad not being confident:
  • Shown me that a lack of self-determination can lead to an empty uninteresting life
  • Running away from dealing with conflict will lead to a disconnected lonely life

Negative

• There was a lack of conversation, and therefore not taught me relationship skills
• Had to hide the more adventurous side of my life through fear of disapproval and putting him in a place of conflict

How his character impacts me now

• I live an independent life, with a lack of family connection. I value them with a sense of joy in avoiding the unimportance of some cultural norms, that they will always be there. However, I lack the agapic love.
• I have been striving to prove myself as someone that is interesting and has worth as an individual. However, this is appearing fruitless too.

What changes might be suggested